When you’re practicing mindfulness, inevitably you start thinking about something… that thing that happened yesterday, what you want to happen tomorrow, what you think about sitting here, etc.

This is actually a good thing… It means you’re alive and you’re not brain dead. (Congratulations!) Just like your heart beating, as long as you’re alive, your brain is going to be active and your mind is going to think. This is natural and normal and an important part of being alive: it’s how you’re able to understand yourself and your environment (on a mental level).

Distracted By Thoughts

The only issue is that it’s easy to get distracted by our thoughts to the point that we’re no longer noticing that we’re practicing. For example, if we’re sitting in our room, practicing being aware of our breath (which is a fancy way of saying that we’re noticing ourself inhale and exhale), it’s easy to get so caught up in our thoughts about that super annoying guy and that ridiculous thing he said at work yesterday, that we completely forget that we’re actually sitting here breathing. We lose touch with our physical bodies, and transport ourselves in time and space to work, yesterday! Mentally, we’re totally unaware of the room we’re sitting in – we’re at work!

We do this all of the time. We’re physically in one place and yet totally unaware of it, because mentally we’re thinking about being in another place. This is a classic example of being “lost in thought.” This doesn’t bother most people too much. You may only really notice it when you’re practicing. You complete your thought (“Next time he says that, I’m gonna say this!”), your mind returns to you sitting here, and “Oops! I’m thinking about something else and I’m supposed to be watching my breath!”

Immediately, you (likely) think that you’re not practicing well. You’ve been told to notice your breath, and you just caught yourself doing something else! Oops. Bad.

Aware of Thoughts

Well, actually, not bad. Good! Here’s a secret: if you’re practicing mindfulness because you want to be more aware of yourself, more present throughout your day, that means that you need to build the muscle of being aware of yourself even when you’re thinking. Functionally, that means that you stay aware of yourself sitting in the room while you’re thinking about work. Your thought process works something like this, “I’m sitting here watching my breath AND I notice that I’m also thinking about work.” In other words, you’re thinking about work while still aware that you’re sitting there.

You can do this now, by reading the next sentence while being aware that you’re sitting there reading it. Notice that your body is in whatever space you’re in (or how your feet feel on the floor) while you read this.

Even simpler, look around you right now and be aware of your body sitting here while you do it. Think/be aware that, “I’m sitting here in this place looking around.” Easy. (Please do it if you haven’t. Otherwise, you might have no idea what I’m talking about, and that experience is really important to understanding the next sentence.)

How does it work?

This is exactly what you do with awareness of thoughts. You just stay aware of yourself (your body if you like) while you’re thinking. Basically, “I’m (sitting) here, thinking this thought.” That’s exactly what you did above when you were aware of yourself while reading.

It’s pretty easy to be aware of ourselves while looking around (seeing what’s in front of us). It’s much harder to stay aware of ourselves while we’re thinking (for very long). This is because we’re so used to distracting ourselves (from where we are physically) with our thoughts. You start thinking about work, and you totally ignore where your body is. It’s habit. We’re incredibly good at distracting ourselves with our thoughts. Even if someone is talking directly to you, you can go off in your head, thinking about something else, and completely miss a whole paragraph of what the person is saying to you. Distraction is a strong muscle. We exercise it a lot.

And if there is any problem with thinking during practice, this is it. It’s that we get distracted from noticing (ourselves). We stop being aware and we start being distracted.

So how is thinking during practice good?

Well, that moment that you notice, “Hey, I’m supposed to be noticing my breath, but instead I’m thinking about something else,” is a moment of perfect awareness. You’ve just accomplished the difficult task of being aware of yourself while you’re thinking! Super!

The secret is that every time you do that, you’ve just exercised a new muscle. The muscle of awareness while thinking. And as you exercise this new muscle, the muscle of distraction will naturally get weaker.

Being aware of ourselves (sitting here) while we’re thinking, is really tough, so every time you get distracted and come back and notice that you’re thinking, you’ve just won the jackpot! Every time this happens you can celebrate! This is a challenging muscle to build, so every time you do it is a gift of pure gold…

So, next time you practice, if you get distracted a million times, realize that you’ve just given yourself a million times to experience mental awareness! Wow! Such riches!

Next time your mind is going crazy, be grateful. Every time you come back and realize that you’re thinking about something else, you’ve won the lottery. You’re giving yourself the gift of strengthening this new muscle of awareness.

You’re a powerhouse. Awesome.

Enjoy it.