Hello Beautiful Souls.
Boundaries… being able to say No and Yes at the right times. Someone recently brought up the idea of the Sacred Yes and the Sacred No as a way of relating to setting boundaries. This is a beautiful concept!
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Evolving: Feeling Safe When Your Future Feels Unknown
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Have you ever experienced an internal transformation so big, so dramatic that you didn’t know what you were changing into? You’re doing your self-development work and suddenly the future just looked blank? You had no idea what was going to happen?
That’s really scary because of course.
We want to know what’s on the other side of change.
We want to know if there are lions and tigers over there!
We want to know what we’re going to need in order to feel safe and comfortable on the other side!
If we can’t see what’s going to happen, if the future looks blank, it’s really hard to quiet down those frightened voices in our head.
Continue readingForgiveness and Releasing Old Hurts
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Recently, many people have mentioned to me their desire to forgive someone.
I love this desire to lean-in and clear pain from our lives. This is a great way to evolve as a species.
So, here is a practice I find hugely powerful for doing just that.
Getting Comfortable With My Emotions Helps Me with Everyone Else’s
Hello Beautiful Souls,
How often have you not said anything when you’re upset? Holding it in, doing your best to keep the peace? And then those times when you do say something, the other person gets upset in response!
Ouch!
Now you’re uncomfortable and they’re uncomfortable, too. Argh!
This means that not only do we need to get better at expressing our own emotions, but we also have to get better at handling those of others. As if the first was not hard enough!
Continue readingIntroverted Or Intolerant of Social Dis-Ease?
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Identify as introverted? What if you’re not introverted, you’ve just outgrown the social malaise: societies general state of poor emotional health and lack of development?
Sure, some of us are truly introverts, we really do prefer to be by ourselves, but I would argue that if we really are a social species, essentially herd animals that are wired to need each other then introversion will be very rare… and it isn’t. I know quite a few introverts. In fact, most of my friends identify on the introvert end of the social scale, no matter what age.
Maybe humans not actually as socially inclined as we like to think, or maybe our society is so sick that it’s just not comfortable to be in.
Why Manifesting Also Attracts It’s Opposite
Hello Beautiful Souls,
We’re moving this weekend, and, as usual, I’ve taken the opportunity to manifest an even more beautiful home. Yay!
Somehow, magically, this always works.
I’ve moved a lot, and I know that if I’m patient, stay in the orbit of grateful and allow myself to expand, I will find an even more amazing home than the one before.
By now, I mostly trust the process, but it can be hard to orbit grateful and allow expansion – because life always throws spanners in the works.
Sometimes big ones.
The question seems to be, how big do I want to get?
A Simpler Way to Protect Yourself (from Overwhelm in Crowds)
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by other people’s energy?
It can be especially obvious in large crowds.
To me it can feel like drowning in an ocean.
I just
can’t
breathe.
A Revelation About How to Use Fear
Hello Beautiful Souls,
I’m taking a vacation for August, so no healing sessions and no Love eLetter until September. I hope that you enjoy the rest of your summer!
I’ve crested into something incredibly useful for me around fear and how to use it well.
It has global, even multi-dimensional implications.
Assertiveness Tips for Building Beautiful Boundaries
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Ok, it’s happening.
Someone is doing or saying something you don’t like or asking for something you don’t want to give and alarm bells are going off in your head and heart.
You feel really uncomfortable, maybe even angry, and you want to address it.
A boundary needs to be set…
Here we go with Assertiveness 101.
I’ve just created this new crib sheet for us to play with.
You’re welcome to test it out with me. Below is a video for those who prefer to watch, and a more comprehensive text for those who prefer to read. They’re a bit different, so if you really resonate with this topic, consider both.
Leaning In: Using Difficult Emotions & Judgements for Healing & Growth
Hello Beautiful Souls,
I’m sharing some of my most hard won lessons with you today. They’re about facing vs avoiding painful emotions. Hard won because as biological beings wired to avoid pain, toxicity, etc. and if we’re admitting our pain it’s generally because we’re in so much of it that we can’t seem to do anything else – we’re drowning in it and taking everyone and everything down with us. It’s not pretty, and we generally avoid it like the plague. Quite literally.
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