Do you ever feel overwhelmed by other people’s energy?
It can be especially obvious in large crowds.
To me it can feel like drowning in an ocean.
I just
can’t
breathe.
Don’t Get Lost in The Guru, The Practice, The Art, The Science
Remember they’re not your goal. They’re helping you get to your goal!
When we find something useful, something that is absolutely changing our lives for the good, it’s easy to become an adherent, a disciple, a believer because we know how helpful it is – we’re experiencing it’s awesome power right now!
That’s heady stuff.
Should I Have A Morning Practice (or Any Practice)?
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Having a morning practice has become a bit of a thing, and you might be wondering if you should have one, or you might be wanting some motivation to keep one going…
For those of us that have a hard time being consistent, this gets especially sticky… should I start yet another thing that I’m just going to quit later?
Argh.
But ‘everyone’ says they’re so good for me!
Ok, ok.
I started up a morning practice recently, and it has been AMAZING!
I even stumbled upon a podcast discussing ‘the science’ behind what makes them so great… (Having a BS, that usually makes my eyes roll. We can back up anything with science. We just need to find a study with the results we want and voila, it’s backed.)
All of this made me wonder, if my morning practice is actually this magic why don’t I want sing from the roof tops the all it’s many accolades?
I Thought I Healed This! What Happens When We Work With Roots
Hello Beautiful Souls,
How many times have you thought you’d healed something only to have it ’come back’?! Argh!
I’ve certainly thought, “This again! How can that be?! I thought I was done with this!!!”
And, maybe, like me, you thought you just hadn’t gotten down to the roots of it yet…
Well, yes. And no.
Balancing Shadow Work with Light Work
Hello Beautiful Souls,
I hope you’ve enjoyed the sweet song of summer and are welcoming the fragrant winds of fall.
As we cross the threshold from one season to the next, I’ve relearned the utility of balance, that while digging down into the depths it is also important to nourish the seeds of what I want to harvest. Balancing the dark with the light, the pain with the pleasure, the challenge with the gift. One without the other is either too dark and depressing or too shallow and ungrounded.
A Revelation About How to Use Fear
Hello Beautiful Souls,
I’m taking a vacation for August, so no healing sessions and no Love eLetter until September. I hope that you enjoy the rest of your summer!
I’ve crested into something incredibly useful for me around fear and how to use it well.
It has global, even multi-dimensional implications.
Assertiveness Tips for Building Beautiful Boundaries
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Ok, it’s happening.
Someone is doing or saying something you don’t like or asking for something you don’t want to give and alarm bells are going off in your head and heart.
You feel really uncomfortable, maybe even angry, and you want to address it.
A boundary needs to be set…
Here we go with Assertiveness 101.
I’ve just created this new crib sheet for us to play with.
You’re welcome to test it out with me. Below is a video for those who prefer to watch, and a more comprehensive text for those who prefer to read. They’re a bit different, so if you really resonate with this topic, consider both.
Building Beautiful Boundaries by Developing Assertiveness
Hello Beautiful Souls,
It’s safe to say that assertiveness is challenging for most of us, largely because we’re asking ourselves to be respectful (or at least civil) when a boundary has been crossed. I’m feeling bad, and now I need to tell you about it. Challenging.
Before we start with how to be assertive, let’s look at some things to do to before we get there… some foundational preparation that makes healthy boundary setting possible.
I’ve listed things that I find critical to my process, including two key points that I haven’t seen any where else. Look for KEY POINT belowor jump down to the video that covers just those two.
Leaning In: Using Difficult Emotions & Judgements for Healing & Growth
Hello Beautiful Souls,
I’m sharing some of my most hard won lessons with you today. They’re about facing vs avoiding painful emotions. Hard won because as biological beings wired to avoid pain, toxicity, etc. and if we’re admitting our pain it’s generally because we’re in so much of it that we can’t seem to do anything else – we’re drowning in it and taking everyone and everything down with us. It’s not pretty, and we generally avoid it like the plague. Quite literally.
Continue readingHow to Stop Absorbing Emotions
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Welcome to the relaunch of my blog, where I answer your questions and offer my best insights into healing, self-development and awareness.
Before we begin: fair warning… in my personal and professional work, I dive in, and go deep. I generally believe that the best way to deal with anything is to lean in, to use whatever is here for growth and evolution, be it joy, sorrow or somewhere in between. This isn’t for everyone, and isn’t even for me all the time. I need to be ready to ask myself hard questions – and be honest about the answers.
So, if you’re not of the “I use my challenges to learn from” persuasion or you just don’t have the bandwidth to go deep today, stop now and either find something softer to work with or come back when you’re feeling up for some serious work.