Guided meditation mentioned in this video: Sensational Awareness
Hello, Beautiful Souls.
I want to tell you a little bit about why is it when we’re healing, that things get worse instead of better—or rather, why they get worse before they get better.
This happens really consistently in my personal healing work, and when I’m working with clients. It happens so often, and it’s so unexpected and disorienting, that it’s worth talking about.
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Many of us have learned the importance of taking responsibility for what’s happening in our lives… for the very practical reason that then we can do something about it!
When I find myself blaming someone for something that’s a sign that there’s something inside I’m not wanting to face. When I calm down enough, I sit with it (do some kind of practice that helps me explore what’s inside, see below for a free guided meditation you can use for this).
Why do we blame others for our problems in the first place? Certainly, many of us were taught to and frankly, it feels good to receive sympathy when things are going bad.
‘Cuz who doesn’t love a quickie in our crazy, whirlwind of a current moment?
…other than my beautiful, slow, silky smooth self… who’d rather take her time?
Truth be told, we’ve all got both.
…sometimes it just helps to have a way to move between the two (or ten). :)
Hello beautiful souls.
What if we talk about the Law of Attention versus the Law of Attraction.
This is maybe a subtle shift. It feels really profound to me though. So first of all, what am I talking about?
The first time I heard about Law of Attention, it was explained to me like this: The Law of Attraction is “I’m an energetic being. I’m vibrating a certain way and so I’m going to attract things that are vibrating similarly to me.” That’s the law of attraction. That makes sense.
The Law of Attention is, if there are 360 degrees of things to pay attention to, and I can’t pay attention to all of them at once, I’m going to focus and filter for certain things. Those are the things I’m paying attention to. Those are the things that are going to be in my field of perception, the things that I (appear to be) manifesting. And this is the Law of Attention.
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Resistance.
Resistance is one of those things we all have, whether we like it or not.
It doesn’t feel great, and gets in the way of doing things in life, so we vilify it. The general idea is that we need to get rid of it, and if we don’t we’re doomed to have it forever, because ‘resistance persists.’
But why is resistance here in the first place?
Maybe I’m resisting walking up stairs, because I’m afraid of falling down. We might feel like it’s stupid thing to resist this, but here’s the thing: your resistance protecting you.
Hello Beautiful Souls.
Ah, those inner voices that bully us into submission… like the inner critic that says, “You’re stupid for being worried! There’s nothing to worry about!” Those voices are really challenging to deal with and I feel like sometimes we don’t realize that they are actually part of the package that needs healing…
Yes, the parts of us that are worried unnecessarily need healing, but so does the critic! And that can be tricky to realize when the critic sounds so reasonable…
Hello Beautiful Souls.
Boundaries… being able to say No and Yes at the right times. Someone recently brought up the idea of the Sacred Yes and the Sacred No as a way of relating to setting boundaries. This is a beautiful concept!
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Have you ever experienced an internal transformation so big, so dramatic that you didn’t know what you were changing into? You’re doing your self-development work and suddenly the future just looked blank? You had no idea what was going to happen?
That’s really scary because of course.
We want to know what’s on the other side of change.
We want to know if there are lions and tigers over there!
We want to know what we’re going to need in order to feel safe and comfortable on the other side!
If we can’t see what’s going to happen, if the future looks blank, it’s really hard to quiet down those frightened voices in our head.
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Recently, many people have mentioned to me their desire to forgive someone.
I love this desire to lean-in and clear pain from our lives. This is a great way to evolve as a species.
So, here is a practice I find hugely powerful for doing just that.
Hello Beautiful Souls.
How do we know if we’re healing something or we’re just sitting around, ruminating, complaining and making it worse?
How do we know if we’re releasing the charge or adding to it and making it worse?
Clearing it or holding it firmly in place? Maybe even making it bigger?!
The difference between working with something in a way that improves it versus a way that just keeps it here is the difference between healing and wallowing… How do we know when we’re doing one versus the other? Even in meditation, we might be releasing or we might be wallowing. How do we know?
I’ve realized a new way to think about this, a new model that I’ve stared using. I want to share that with you because I find it really helpful. First, I’m going to give you the one I’ve refined over the years from personal and professional work, and then I’ll give you the newer one. They both focus on healing emotions, because they end up being such a big part of the healing process.
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