Hello, Beautiful Souls.
One of the things that can trip us up when we’re on a healing journey the fact that healing isn’t linear.
It doesn’t happen as a constant upward trend.
One day things are great, and the next things are not.
Continue readingHealing
I Thought I Healed This! What Happens When We Work With Roots
Hello Beautiful Souls,
How many times have you thought you’d healed something only to have it ’come back’?! Argh!
I’ve certainly thought, “This again! How can that be?! I thought I was done with this!!!”
And, maybe, like me, you thought you just hadn’t gotten down to the roots of it yet…
Well, yes. And no.
Balancing Shadow Work with Light Work
Hello Beautiful Souls,
I hope you’ve enjoyed the sweet song of summer and are welcoming the fragrant winds of fall.
As we cross the threshold from one season to the next, I’ve relearned the utility of balance, that while digging down into the depths it is also important to nourish the seeds of what I want to harvest. Balancing the dark with the light, the pain with the pleasure, the challenge with the gift. One without the other is either too dark and depressing or too shallow and ungrounded.
Assertiveness Tips for Building Beautiful Boundaries
Hello Beautiful Souls,
Ok, it’s happening.
Someone is doing or saying something you don’t like or asking for something you don’t want to give and alarm bells are going off in your head and heart.
You feel really uncomfortable, maybe even angry, and you want to address it.
A boundary needs to be set…
Here we go with Assertiveness 101.
I’ve just created this new crib sheet for us to play with.
You’re welcome to test it out with me. Below is a video for those who prefer to watch, and a more comprehensive text for those who prefer to read. They’re a bit different, so if you really resonate with this topic, consider both.
Building Beautiful Boundaries by Developing Assertiveness
Hello Beautiful Souls,
It’s safe to say that assertiveness is challenging for most of us, largely because we’re asking ourselves to be respectful (or at least civil) when a boundary has been crossed. I’m feeling bad, and now I need to tell you about it. Challenging.
Before we start with how to be assertive, let’s look at some things to do to before we get there… some foundational preparation that makes healthy boundary setting possible.
I’ve listed things that I find critical to my process, including two key points that I haven’t seen any where else. Look for KEY POINT belowor jump down to the video that covers just those two.
Leaning In: Using Difficult Emotions & Judgements for Healing & Growth
Hello Beautiful Souls,
I’m sharing some of my most hard won lessons with you today. They’re about facing vs avoiding painful emotions. Hard won because as biological beings wired to avoid pain, toxicity, etc. and if we’re admitting our pain it’s generally because we’re in so much of it that we can’t seem to do anything else – we’re drowning in it and taking everyone and everything down with us. It’s not pretty, and we generally avoid it like the plague. Quite literally.
Continue readingQuitting Addiction: Identify the Needs Your Addiction Fills
We have addictions, unhealthy habits, because we’re filling needs. I eat sugar to feel loved!
If we want to quit an addiction, we first need to understand that addictions aren’t random. They don’t just descend on us by accident. We have them for a reason (or three).
Continue readingInsomnia Melting into Sleep
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKOexGhiEdc&t
Frustrated with your attempts to cure your insomnia with meditation? I realized that the frustration itself was keeping me awake! I also realized that if I could relax into being just 10% calmer (versus frustrated the I still wasn’t asleep!), that I’d sink 10% deeper, then 10% more… Eventually, I was 30% closer… Melting slowly. Melting slowly to sleep. If nothing else, melting, relaxing is a restful practice.
Practice Giving and Receiving
Guided Meditation Recording (8m10s)
As social animals, giving and receiving are a daily part of life. We need each other for mental, emotional and physical support – on a daily basis, and those needs can sometimes be challenging to have and support. Often times we develop habits where one is easier than the other. Many of us are better at giving and others are better at receiving. It’s not so often that we feel equally comfortable with both. And that can change depending on the people we’re with and situations we’re in. Sometimes it just feels easier to do one and not the other.
Continue readingMove Your Immunity
Your lymphatic system, an important part of your immune system, is passive, meaning that it does not move itself.
Instead, it moves when you do. That also means that if you aren’t moving it isn’t either.