Why you aren’t doing your mindfulness practice (& what you can do about it)

(4:24) Why don’t we eat more leafy greens, exercise more or floss more often? We know it’s good for us and we just don’t do it!

Put simply, our motivations have to overcome our resistances… Our reasons to do it have to outweigh our reasons not to do it!

Simple enough. Let’s look at our resistances, our blocks and how we can work to overcome them.

First, you might be resisting what you think will happen as a result of meditating. If you’re meditating to reduce stress, you might have an unconscious belief that you need stress to stay sharp and efficient. You might think that you will lose your edge if your stress level goes down. Ask yourself, “What will I lose if I meditate?” Then do some research and find out if your beliefs are true. What have other meditators experienced? What have the scientific studies found?

Second, you might be resisting actually doing the act of meditating itself. You might feel it’s too boring to do, takes too long to fit into your busy schedule, etc. There are lots of ways to address these kinds of issues including funding a practice that interests you and practicing for a shorter time. You can also have some fun setting some short-term goals for yourself and growing your sense of motivation and accomplishment that way.

See where your main resistances fall, unconscious beliefs about negative end results or issues with the logistics of your practice. Work with your resistances and overcome them by doing some research, adjusting your practice or creating motivational short term goals.

Enjoy motivating yourself!

3 Steps to Empowerment, Step 3: Empowerment

Once we can see and accept ourselves, we begin to have choices about where to put our energy. Do we keep doing what we’re doing, or do we focus our energy on something else?
The empowerment to make this choice comes from the clarity of awareness: knowing what we’re doing, and the openness of acceptance: allowing whatever we’re thinking, feeling, doing to be here.  Because we’re open to our thoughts, feelings and actions (and not denying, resisting, and contracting around them) they can shift and change and thus we are in an empowered space… we have choices about where to focus our energy.
There are many ways to reach this stage of empowerment, of being in a space to make real choices about what we’re doing… to go from fine to fantastic…
I’d love to know what you’ve done in your life to get to this place of fully aware choices?
Enjoy,
Elena
theJoyLab.net

3 Steps to Empowerment, Step 2: Acceptance

As we become aware of ourselves, our daily thoughts, feelings and actions, then we can start to accept them… most will be easy to accept and some will take a bit of compassion. For some we will want to step out of denial and out of resistance and into compassion, non-judgement and acceptance.
Why might this be useful?
If we want to go from fine to fantastic then we want to accept all of ourselves… step out of denial and resistance of the parts that we feel we don’t like and into acceptance. Then we start to know the truth of how fantastic we already are!
Can you accept all of you?
Some days I’m better than others… I’d love to know what kinds of things you’ve done that helped you to accept parts that were “unacceptable”?
Enjoy,
Elena
theJoyLab.net

Broken to Joy: How to Recognize Resistance & Make Friends With It

(video) Resistance can be tricky to recognize… if it is working properly it is designed to distract you from the pain underneath it. How can you recognize resistance and how can you deal with it once you do? This video shows you one way that I’ve found works well.

What’s your experience with resistance and making friends with it?

Enjoy,
Elena
theJoyLab.net