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What do you do when you want to assert your thoughts and feelings and you know the person you’re talking to doesn’t agree with you?
It’s good to share what we think and feel with each other, and it’s even better to do it in a way that creates connection and support versus divisiveness and pain.
I’ve been working on this for years and I’m still not very good at it.
Continue readingThis is an excerpt from a book I’m writing about coaching meditation. I find that right away people have issues with comparison and thinking that they have to sit cross-legged on the floor to meditate… both of which are famously uncomfortable things to do! Here are some ways to play with both of those challenges…
Continue readingOne thing that most of us don’t do enough of is move.
And if we do move, we don’t necessarily move those parts that are most effected by our modern, device using lifestyles… like our shoulders.
Continue readingIt’s popular in some circles to denigrate the New Age movement.
And I do think there are some things missing from its positive facing approach.
But what if we recognized that what we can do – and in fact are doing – is growing it into something else?
It’s useful to see what’s missing from something.
It’s helpful to recognize what’s not working.
That’s how we can understand what to add or change.
And it’s often more efficient to take what is useful and add to it, make it better, stronger, and more robust, than to start all over again.
There are many different wisdom traditions that talk about winter and the New Year. Some honor the changing of the sun and the bringing of light with the Winter Solstice, some are more focused on starting new things and resolutions for the (Gregorian Solar) New Year, while (Indian) Ayurveda says winter is a good time to look inside…
Continue readingChange can be destabilizing and difficult on every level.
Our self-care practices, on the other hand, can help us recenter and navigate change with more ease.
I know that you are, but how can YOU know whether that’s true if it isn’t your current experience?
Most modern humans only experience themselves as their mind (including emotions). Anyone telling them they they’re bigger than that just sounds like a crazy person!
Or at best like they are having a really different experience than you are… which isn’t so helpful.
Continue readingGo easy. Go slow. Go simple. Go small.
When we’re creating a new habit, it’s usually easy at first. We’re excited to be doing something new and good for ourselves!
And then the honeymoon wears off and we slide back into our old habits. Have we failed?
Continue readingIt doesn’t have to be! You have all the tools you need already to expand your horizons infinitely.
If we spend our time only using our mind to perceive reality, we miss out on a lot of what’s going on. We miss out on all of the things that our mind simply doesn’t pick up on.
Same if we’re only relying on our body/gut/instinct (however you think of that kind of perception). Or only navigating using our emotional intelligence.
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