Healing

Building Beautiful Boundaries by Developing Assertiveness

Hello Beautiful Souls,

It’s safe to say that assertiveness is challenging for most of us, largely because we’re asking ourselves to be respectful (or at least civil) when a boundary has been crossed. I’m feeling bad, and now I need to tell you about it. Challenging.

Before we start with how to be assertive, let’s look at some things to do to before we get there… some foundational preparation that makes healthy boundary setting possible.

I’ve listed things that I find critical to my process, including two key points that I haven’t seen any where else. Look for KEY POINT belowor jump down to the video that covers just those two.

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Leaning In: Using Difficult Emotions & Judgements for Healing & Growth

Hello Beautiful Souls,

I’m sharing some of my most hard won lessons with you today. They’re about facing vs avoiding painful emotions. Hard won because as biological beings wired to avoid pain, toxicity, etc. and if we’re admitting our pain it’s generally because we’re in so much of it that we can’t seem to do anything else – we’re drowning in it and taking everyone and everything down with us. It’s not pretty, and we generally avoid it like the plague. Quite literally.  

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Insomnia Melting into Sleep

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKOexGhiEdc&t

Frustrated with your attempts to cure your insomnia with meditation? I realized that the frustration itself was keeping me awake! I also realized that if I could relax into being just 10% calmer (versus frustrated the I still wasn’t asleep!), that I’d sink 10% deeper, then 10% more… Eventually, I was 30% closer… Melting slowly. Melting slowly to sleep. If nothing else, melting, relaxing is a restful practice.

Practice Giving and Receiving

Guided Meditation Recording (8m10s)

As social animals, giving and receiving are a daily part of life. We need each other for mental, emotional and physical support – on a daily basis, and those needs can sometimes be challenging to have and support. Often times we develop habits where one is easier than the other. Many of us are better at giving and others are better at receiving. It’s not so often that we feel equally comfortable with both. And that can change depending on the people we’re with and situations we’re in. Sometimes it just feels easier to do one and not the other.

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Winter is a Time to Go In

There are many different wisdom traditions that talk about winter and the New Year. Some honor the changing of the sun and the bringing of light with the Winter Solstice, some are more focused on starting new things and resolutions for the (Gregorian Solar) New Year, while (Indian) Ayurveda says winter is a good time to look inside…

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