Hello Beautiful Souls,

We’re moving this weekend, and, as usual, I’ve taken the opportunity to manifest an even more beautiful home. Yay!

Somehow, magically, this always works.

I’ve moved a lot, and I know that if I’m patient, stay in the orbit of grateful and allow myself to expand, I will find an even more amazing home than the one before.

By now, I mostly trust the process, but it can be hard to orbit grateful and allow expansion – because life always throws spanners in the works.

Sometimes big ones.
The question seems to be, how big do I want to get?

Almost always, with moving, something about money comes up. This time it’s overpaying rent (oops) and negotiating the details of the new rental contract.

I can feel like a victim if I want. “Why does life always do this to me?!”
I can feel like it’s fate, “C’est la vie. Whenever we want to do anything in life, there’s always something in the way.”

Or, I can recognize that all of the problems that arise are already here inside of me. They’re all problems that I already harbor. Issues that I carry around with me all the time, though I’m not having to face them until I’m in particular situations… like needing to sort out who owes who money. Or who will be owing who money, and how much.

I’m realizing that this is the gift of expansion… anytime I want to manifest something that I don’t have, then I have to grow, to get bigger. Necessarily, I invite all my blocks around it to show up. All of the things that were stopping me, all of the reasons that I haven’t done whatever it is before, must now be dealt with.

Life isn’t doing this to me.
I’m doing this to me.
I’m asking for expansion. I have to shed the old restrictions, the old barriers, the old skin that will be too small for the new me to be.

And the capacity to which I can face my fears, deal with my blocks, lean into the shadows and embrace them, heal them, work with them is the amount of expansion that I can allow.

I really like this way of framing these kinds of struggles. It helps me feel like while some challenges might arrive at seemingly arbitrary times, ones like this, ones in which I’m seeking expansion, come with challenges built in.

They aren’t arbitrary.
They’re a necessary part of my expansion process.

So far, things are going ok.
Agreements are being made, details sorted.

The next home is lovely, but it’s only until end of January, so clearly, there’s still some work to do.
Gulp.

Wish me luck.
As you know, this stuff ain’t easy.

Eléna

Hello Beautiful Souls,

I hope you’ve enjoyed the sweet song of summer and are welcoming the fragrant winds of fall.

As we cross the threshold from one season to the next, I’ve relearned the utility of balance, that while digging down into the depths it is also important to nourish the seeds of what I want to harvest. Balancing the dark with the light, the pain with the pleasure, the challenge with the gift. One without the other is either too dark and depressing or too shallow and ungrounded.

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Hello Beautiful Souls,

I’m taking a vacation for August, so no healing sessions and no Love eLetter until September. I hope that you enjoy the rest of your summer!

I’ve crested into something incredibly useful for me around fear and how to use it well.
It has global, even multi-dimensional implications.

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Hello Beautiful Souls,

Ok, it’s happening.
Someone is doing or saying something you don’t like or asking for something you don’t want to give and alarm bells are going off in your head and heart.
You feel really uncomfortable, maybe even angry, and you want to address it.
A boundary needs to be set…

Here we go with Assertiveness 101.
I’ve just created this new crib sheet for us to play with.
You’re welcome to test it out with me. Below is a video for those who prefer to watch, and a more comprehensive text for those who prefer to read. They’re a bit different, so if you really resonate with this topic, consider both.

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