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Healing: When are you releasing an emotion vs making it worse?

Hello Beautiful Souls.

How do we know if we’re healing something or we’re just sitting around, ruminating, complaining and making it worse?
How do we know if we’re releasing the charge or adding to it and making it worse?
Clearing it or holding it firmly in place? Maybe even making it bigger?!

The difference between working with something in a way that improves it versus a way that just keeps it here is the difference between healing and wallowing… How do we know when we’re doing one versus the other? Even in meditation, we might be releasing or we might be wallowing. How do we know?

I’ve realized a new way to think about this, a new model that I’ve stared using. I want to share that with you because I find it really helpful. First, I’m going to give you the one I’ve refined over the years from personal and professional work, and then I’ll give you the newer one. They both focus on healing emotions, because they end up being such a big part of the healing process.

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Healing: Have I Healed It If It Keeps Coming Back?!

Hello Beautiful Souls,

If you’ve done a lot of work around something, like anger, have you healed it if you keep feeling angry?
Isn’t it supposed to go away if you’ve healed it?
Isn’t that the POINT of healing something? So that you don’t have to deal with it anymore?
Didn’t you heal it to make it go away?

For me, when it comes back, I think, “Oh my god, I thought I healed my anger, but I’m mad at my husband again! Where did this come from?! I still haven’t healed this!? Will it ever end?!”
Right?!

How many times have you had that happen: you heal something and it comes back?!
And then you doubt that you’ll ever heal it.

What if there is a better way to look at this?
Let’s look at what happens in healing, and then a way to look at it that allows us to heal in degrees, over time, vs getting disappointed that our magic wand is clearly broken!

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Healing: Ways To Measure Progress

Hello, Beautiful Souls.

You’re on your path, on a healing journey… and you’re getting better!
Or at least you think you’re getting better…
But how can you be sure?
How do you know if you’re actually improving, or just kidding yourself?
This is a great question.

If you’re on a big journey, tackling big hairy things, it’s good to know if you’re making progress…. if you’re just spinning your wheels, or if you’re getting traction. And it’s especially comforting to know if you’ve just turned a BIG corner.

I have 3 suggestions for tracking your progress that I find really useful. Most of us will prefer one or another, so feel into what fits you on your current path.

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Getting Comfortable With My Emotions Helps Me with Everyone Else’s

Hello Beautiful Souls,

How often have you not said anything when you’re upset? Holding it in, doing your best to keep the peace? And then those times when you do say something, the other person gets upset in response!

Ouch!
Now you’re uncomfortable and they’re uncomfortable, too. Argh!

This means that not only do we need to get better at expressing our own emotions, but we also have to get better at handling those of others. As if the first was not hard enough!

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Getting Comfortable with Our Emotions by Moving Our Bodies

Hello Beautiful Souls,

There are several steps to becoming comfortable with our uncomfortable emotions – and many ways to go about it!

First, we need to feel safe enough to even start. If we’re feeling really threatened, it’s hard to want to do anything other than defend or protect. So it you’re interested in this topic, congratulations, you’re already in a good place – you feel safe enough to even consider this! Bravo!

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Introverted Or Intolerant of Social Dis-Ease?

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Identify as introverted? What if you’re not introverted, you’ve just outgrown the social malaise: societies general state of poor emotional health and lack of development?

Sure, some of us are truly introverts, we really do prefer to be by ourselves, but I would argue that if we really are a social species, essentially herd animals that are wired to need each other then introversion will be very rare… and it isn’t. I know quite a few introverts. In fact, most of my friends identify on the introvert end of the social scale, no matter what age.

Maybe humans not actually as socially inclined as we like to think, or maybe our society is so sick that it’s just not comfortable to be in.

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Why Manifesting Also Attracts It’s Opposite

Hello Beautiful Souls,

We’re moving this weekend, and, as usual, I’ve taken the opportunity to manifest an even more beautiful home. Yay!

Somehow, magically, this always works.

I’ve moved a lot, and I know that if I’m patient, stay in the orbit of grateful and allow myself to expand, I will find an even more amazing home than the one before.

By now, I mostly trust the process, but it can be hard to orbit grateful and allow expansion – because life always throws spanners in the works.

Sometimes big ones.
The question seems to be, how big do I want to get?

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