I create safe spaces for people to heal,
to walk into their shadows and reforge their gifts.
Inside these moments I feel like something cross between
a ‘gentle guardian warrior’ and a ‘lamp-lighting black smith.’
Somehow there are no stock photos for that. :)

I’ve spent most of my life working on my shadows, my demons, my dragons.
And, most of that time, I thought I needed to eradicate them, release them into the ethers to never be seen from again…
We all know how well that works. LOL.
The, “OMG! This again! I thought I was done with this one!” endless cycle, which I quickly realized was more of an upward spiral, was my first clue. That and several types of meditation that I studied deeply, suggest simply “being with” whatever arises, and while that’s usually shared in the context of, “and then it will go,” I began to clearly see that it didn’t.
Like ever.

Reduce yes.
Get much more tolerable, yes. (Shew!)
Eventually moldable into something else, YES.
Go away? Big fat, NO.
Bummer.

What does happen, if we do our work and get safe enough, is
we can reform these dragons back into tools that we’re happy to use.

My hyper-sensitivity to emotional energy,
that I grabbed in a moment of panic to help me navigate an environment
oversaturated with painful emotions?
I don’t have to use that to only sense pain.
Once I was able to feel safe enough to stop using that for defense, I realized
it’s a super power for sensing all emotions… painful and pleasurable.
Ahhhhhhhhh…

Now, I use it in sessions to help me orient towards not only
what’s going all kinds of ‘wrong,‘
also to deeply understand what’s available
that’s all kinds of ‘right.‘

It’s much easier to sense the whole picture when I’m focusing on the whole thing
versus just the painful parts.
Magic.

I like to think of this as
learning to fly with the dragons
(vs battling them).
Some prefer to fight.
These days,
I prefer to fly.

I’m now able to work with even bigger, stronger and ‘scarier’ dragons,
because I’m better at sensing the other sides of it as well.

And it brings a deep, deep compassion,
because I see past the pain and suffering and into the beauty underneath.

And everything, My Love,
Everything,
has Beauty underneath.

Since 2007, I’ve helped hundreds of spiritual people do this work.

It’s not easy.
You need to be willing to feel.
Even if you’re scared you can’t.

You don’t need to re-live anything.
And no talking is necessary.

You don’t need to understand anything.
You just need to feel like now is the right moment.

And it’s not instant. It takes time.
And dedication.

I don’t have a magic want.
But you do.

Inside of you, you have a forge, a place we can go and melt down the old and reform the new.
A place to turn the lead into gold.
A place to blossom the beauty that is already here.

Welcome, Beautiful Soul,
Welcome.

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