Author: Eléna Foucher

Mastery Is One Step at a Time

Hello Beautiful Souls,

A slightly groggy happy sunny morning to you.
I just landed a few hours ago…

Instead of completing the Love Letter I started for you, I chose to revel in the wonderful privilege of accompanying my husband’s summer tennis coaching at the Wimbledon pre-qualifications. It was my first time there and a local friend gave me a tour of the enormous campus.

I was impressed by the understated elegance: the precisely manicured grass courts, the swathes of flowers floating in potted seas of dark green leaves, the living vertical walls with golden clocks sparkling in the sun (yes! it was sunny!), the sweeping terraces with vine covered trellises, the raised glass walkways winging their way across the skies so that the stars can get to their matches unhindered and on time…

It’s magnificent. A piece of art.
An enormous verdant garden, all for enjoying the art of tennis at it’s highest levels.

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Stop Trying to Find Your Life’s Purpose: Find It In The Now

What if your life purpose wasn’t preordained? What if it wasn’t determined by your inherent skills and talents, or even the ones you’ve chosen to cultivate?

What if there was no single life purpose that you needed to discover, instead it evolved as you evolve?

What if your life’s purpose was determined, not for your life, but in every moment?

…And what would that mean for you right now?

Most of us have grown up with the idea that we need to discover our life’s purpose. That purpose is supposed to help us determine once and for all, our path in life, and once we know it, whether we’re achieving it or not. It’s like our navigational north star, our rudder that keeps us sailing in the right direction, even the motivation that keeps us moving when seas get rough.

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Your Quiet Depth Under Your Distractions

If you’re in the mood to connect with yourself,
take a few quiet breaths, and let’s dive in…


I think about containers a lot, and while one of my ultimate explorations is, ‘what (kind of a container) am I?,’ I’ve just been sitting in the quiet noticing the impact of what I’m choosing to contain… what I’m inviting in, what I’m entertaining…
and how that distracts me from my ability to notice my deeper self, to notice what I am underneath all of that.

Simply, I’m sitting here noticing my daily thoughts…
and how they are a lot of static,
a lot of interference,
ultimately, just a lot of noise.

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When Pushing Through Isn’t The Answer

I was home recently, and a family friend and I started discussing how she gets tired quickly in situations that are stressful. She starts to get overwhelmed and then very, very sleepy.

While we’re both introverts in the sense that we need time alone to feel whole and resourced, her tiredness is beyond that. It’s very linked to stress, and it comes fast. It’s a trauma response, in that her existing emotional overwhelm is being triggered by the stressful situation. This pattern is very uncomfortable for her, and sometimes she gets so uncomfortable that it affects the entire group of people around her.

We were sitting in the living room, reflecting on it. “When you notice it’s happening and you feel the fear,” I said. She sighed, chiming in, completing my sentence with the obvious cultural trope, “…do it anyway.”

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Grief and Co-Creating

Grief

I’ve been wondering what to share… am I up for sharing? Is the inner work too cloudy to share on the out side?

We had a death in the family on 8 April. By the time this goes out, we will be in full swing, celebrating the un-timely, peaceful death of my beloved brother at 64yo.

It’s been devastating.
After my nephew told me over the phone, I sat down where I was and started crying.
That went on for a few days.
Even on trail runs, stopping and sitting down on the ground to just weep. Sadness.

When I connect with him I get expansion, freedom, relief. He’s not in chronic pain anymore. This feels wonderful.

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Why You Feel Worse Before You Feel Better

Guided meditation mentioned in this video: Sensational Awareness

Hello, Beautiful Souls.

I want to tell you a little bit about why is it when we’re healing, that things get worse instead of better—or rather, why they get worse before they get better.

This happens really consistently in my personal healing work, and when I’m working with clients. It happens so often, and it’s so unexpected and disorienting, that it’s worth talking about.

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Healing The High Cost of Blame

Hello, Beautiful Souls.

Many of us have learned the importance of taking responsibility for what’s happening in our lives… for the very practical reason that then we can do something about it!

When I find myself blaming someone for something that’s a sign that there’s something inside I’m not wanting to face. When I calm down enough, I sit with it (do some kind of practice that helps me explore what’s inside, see below for a free guided meditation you can use for this).

Why do we blame others for our problems in the first place? Certainly, many of us were taught to and frankly, it feels good to receive sympathy when things are going bad.

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Abundance Depends On What You’re Paying Attention To Vs What You’re Attracting

Hello beautiful souls.

What if we talk about the Law of Attention versus the Law of Attraction.
This is maybe a subtle shift. It feels really profound to me though. So first of all, what am I talking about?

The first time I heard about Law of Attention, it was explained to me like this: The Law of Attraction is “I’m an energetic being. I’m vibrating a certain way and so I’m going to attract things that are vibrating similarly to me.” That’s the law of attraction. That makes sense.

The Law of Attention is, if there are 360 degrees of things to pay attention to, and I can’t pay attention to all of them at once, I’m going to focus and filter for certain things. Those are the things I’m paying attention to. Those are the things that are going to be in my field of perception, the things that I (appear to be) manifesting. And this is the Law of Attention.

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