Adding Struggle to Your Vision Board?

It’s popular in some circles to denigrate the New Age movement.
And I do think there are some things missing from its positive facing approach.

But what if we recognized that what we can do – and in fact are doing – is growing it into something else?

It’s useful to see what’s missing from something.
It’s helpful to recognize what’s not working.
That’s how we can understand what to add or change.
And it’s often more efficient to take what is useful and add to it, make it better, stronger, and more robust, than to start all over again.

I think that’s what we’ve been doing for years. I think that we’ve been evolving the New Age ideas and making them better. The work of people like Brene Brown on shame and vulnerability, Mark Manson on choosing your struggle, Bronnie Ware on regret and many, many more, add a welcome balance.

I’ve found it helpful to do my New Age inspired vision board, and in that process reflect and feel into not only the beautiful things I want to create, also into ‘whats getting in the way’ à la Brene Brown and ‘what struggles go along with them and are those the struggles I want?’ à la Mark Manson?

For example, if I want to be more successful, why am I not already? Am I scared that people won’t like me? Am I ashamed of myself somehow?

Also, I’ll have to work differently to be more successful. Is working differently something I want to do? Is that a struggle I want to have?

It’s not that any of these ideas are new. It’s more that I’d like to point out the progression… We’re evolving The New Age. We’ve been evolving The New Age. No need to push it away. We’ve been adapting it for years, and we can keep doing that until whatever we’re making is so different we don’t even recognize any “New Age” in it.

Brene Brown said something like hope is the knowing that when you fall you can get back up. This is a pretty powerful statement because it implies 1. that you’re consciously aware that falling is a part of the process, 2. that you’ve gotten back up and 3. that you’re willing to do it all again. Eyes open.
You accept the challenging along with the good.

I think we’re evolving the beautiful New Age ideas into a more robust from of hope. Hope that includes the challenges.

Beautiful creation. Hope added.

Happy Hoping,
Elena

How Meditation Changed My Life

Meditation is my power tool for self transformation. It’s the thing that I do that makes all of the other self transformation tools actually work!

Before it, I couldn’t see myself as clearly, which made changing things difficult. With meditation, I can see my patterns, when and why I’m doing them, and that’s invaluable for evolving them.

Meditation isn’t self-transformation in itself. It is self-observation. Self-realization. Self-knowing. That’s invaluable.

If I can see myself, I can change myself. If I cannot see myself, it’s much harder to even know that there’s anything that needs changing!

I’ve practice meditation since 2004 and the changes that it’s helped me make are so compelling that I continue to practice to this day.

The Failure Challenge

This is a challenge to reframe failure…

Next time you reach a moment of failure, see if you can reframe it as a moment to reassess what you’re doing and where you are going.

If you’re failing that means you are doing something, so what have you learned? How have you changed? What can you do better now? And has your goal changed?

Failure is a chance to see how you’ve evolved, upgrade what you’re doing and let your goals evolve as you do.

Enjoy!,

Elena

 

Broken to Joy: Mind Games

(video) Sometimes we’ve just got to go for it and let our heart speak.
Here is my heart speaking to yours about a topic we all love: how we’re becoming better people through spirituality, through working with our lovely minds… And how that gets in our way sometimes.
This is the second video where I challenged myself to let my heart speak with out mental preparation and to drop back into heart whenever I noticed my mind talking… the mind to heart pauses can be annoying if you want a fast pace!
You are welcome, for your own sanity, to use the pauses to sink deeper into your own heart.
I’d love to know how this experiment goes for you!
Enjoy!,
Elena
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Broken to Joy: Moving from Head to Heart?

(video) This video was a personal challenge… to be in my heart!

First, to speak from the heart with no preparation other than to have the intention to talk about something useful that we can all relate to. Second, whenever I start talking from my mind to pause… and drop back into heart space.

So, the pauses in this video are just that: me moving from head to heart. This is the first time I’ve done this on video so it is a slow process…
This could be annoying to watch!

Maybe if you take the challenge yourself, and every time I get quiet you drop as deeply into yourself as you can, then it might be as fun to watch as it was to make! Who knows?!

It would be really cool to hear how this experiment went for you!

Enjoy!,
Elena
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Broken to Joy: How to Recognize Resistance & Make Friends With It

(video) Resistance can be tricky to recognize… if it is working properly it is designed to distract you from the pain underneath it. How can you recognize resistance and how can you deal with it once you do? This video shows you one way that I’ve found works well.

What’s your experience with resistance and making friends with it?

Enjoy,
Elena
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Broken to Joy: How to Let Go, Part 2

(video) Once we’re ready to quit the cycle of denial and reliving our pain, we can acknowledge it and let it go… Oh happy day!
Here’s one technique that I use with clients for acknowledging pain – without denying or reliving.

What’s your experience?

Enjoy,
Elena
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Broken to Joy: How to Let Go, Part 1

(video) We tend to do a mixture of two things when we’re faced with something that we don’t like: we deny it and we relive it in our heads over and over. Neither of these are terribly helpful for letting go of the pain.

What’s your experience with these things?

Enjoy,
Elena
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Broken to Joy: How Patience Speeds Healing

(video) Patience helps lighten the load. You feel safer and more confident making change easier.
Frustration adds another layer of ick to work through.

What’s your experience with these two?

Enjoy,
Elena
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Broken to Joy: Stepping Out of Turmoil – Practicing During Turmoil (3 of 3)

(video) Caught up in a storm? How to stop the thunder and lightening?

The third step, after remembering that your thoughts aren’t you (you have thoughts like you have a shirt) and practicing remembering that enough that it is easy to do… you can finally remember in the middle of chaos!

Stepping out of turmoil is but a practice away…

Enjoy,
Elena
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