Mindfulness Made Easy Practice Group

Marathon Finish LineDear Fellow Meditators,
It ​is a ​true ​joy to share mindfulness and I hope that you are gaining a lot from your practice.
To support you in continuing your practice, I’m offering periodic one hour group practice sessions over Skype.
What are these group practice ​sessions?
In these sessions we will all meet, do a practice together (that you already know) and you can share what’s happening in your practice. This is a perfect time for sharing insights and asking any questions that have come up.This group is to support you to practice what you’ve learned, so I will not teach anything new.
Cost?

They will be $200 HKD/session, payable at the beginning of the month for 1, 3 or 6 month packages. Discounts given for 3 and 6 month packages – to encourage you to practice!

How does this help you?
I ran the Standard Chartered Marathon two years ago with the help of a friend in Australia. Every Friday we exchanged emails about how far we’d run that week, any insights we’d had and any issues we’d run into. In these emails we gave and received companionship, advice, accountability and the encouragement to keep going! It was incredibly helpful as I train​ed​ a lot in order to run that race… and when I crossed the finish line, I thanked her for helping make that victory happen.

Why are practice groups important? The science says…
​S​tudies have shown that practicing habits with a group greatly increases our tendency to do them.
Why? Because groups provide support and accountability.
​They support us to grow and learn and encourage us to keep going. ​

They are wonderful ways to help ourselves instill and maintain habits.

Joining this group will help you practice regularly, giving you the most out of your investment.
Consider joining this group if you would like to have this support to continue your mindfulness practice.
Finally, there are other meditation groups that meet in person every week if you prefer to meet in person.
Happy Practicing!,
Elena

Tracking Your Meditation Practice

womanRunning2Hello Fellow Meditators,

In order to benefit from meditation we have to practice. Just like exercise, we have to do it to get more fit!

The key to your meditation practice is to remember why you want to meditate.
Take a moment to remember what you want to gain… is it calm? A better way to deal with stress? To be less anxious? Relief from physical pain? Inner peace? Self knowledge?

Whatever it is, take a moment to remember that now.

Your reason for meditating is very important because that is your motivation to practice.
Without it you will not practice. It is that crucial. It is the key to keeping your practice going on a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly basis. Keep your reason close to your heart, write it down and look at it periodically or review it in your mind every so often. It may change over time as your practice grows, which is wonderful. Whatever it is, keep it close.

Another helpful thing to do is to measure your progress.
It helps to measure whether you are you moving towards your goal or not.

How can we measure our progress?

We can do the very simple procedure of tracking our practice.

It works like this: get a notebook or a piece of paper and write down every day a few key items…

1. How often you practiced today (Example: Today’s Date: 0 or 20,000 times)

2. Any insights you had or questions that came up. (Example: I realized today that lack of sleep has a big impact on my ability to focus!)

3. Anything that changed today (Examples: Today it was easier to focus. or Today it was harder to be present.)

 

Start with these and see how it goes. I recommend doing this for at least a full week to see if it helps you or not. Over the course of your week, you may realize that you want to track different things than these. For instance, you may want to track how much sleep you’ve had or how easy it was to focus or how long it took you to get through your meditation.

Whatever you choose to track, I do recommend that you always track how many times a day you practice because it will encourage you to practice if you know that  you are writing it down. And it is wonderfully encouraging to look back after several weeks or months and see how much you have practiced!

Finally, you can track on paper, on your phone, on your computer… whatever is easiest for you.

I like paper for meditation because I like to journal about any questions that keep coming up. For running I use an app on my phone or a calendar on the wall if I’m doing specific training for a race.

Some people like to track on a spread sheet at their desk, or use their phone’s note app or a tracking app. You could send daily emails to yourself using the same or similar subject lines or use task management software if you wanted to get really fancy (esp if you already use it for work or other projects in your life). If you’ve tracked anything in the past, think about how it worked for you and whether you can use it for meditation practice now.

There are many, many ways to track, the most important way is the one that works for you. Choose the one that seems easiest at first, and experiment until you’re satisfied that you’ve found something that’s easy.

In case you like the app idea, here is a meditation app that says that it allows you to track your practice via iPhone: Equanimity, ‘easily log meditations not timed using your iPhone (at a class or retreat etc)’. And here’s a whole list of them, which may suit your needs. I haven’t tried any of them, so if you do, please let me know how it goes!

And feel free to put what works for you for tracking, including other apps below!

Enjoy,
Elena

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Learning to Love Myself – Step 1

learning to love myselfI’m teaching myself to love myself. Actually, I’m sort of conning myself into it by constantly telling myself that I love myself. Several people have suggested this as a way to rewire the brain and the subconscious. Matt Kahn gives a pretty compelling argument here as does Kamal Ravikant in his book, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. I am beginning to realize that it does. At least a happy life does.

The first time I listened to the Matt Kahn video many months ago, I foolishly decided to try out repeating “I love myself” on a long training run. There I am running along in a beautiful country park, telling this to myself, and suddenly I start feeling terrible. I didn’t make any connection between the phrase and the discomfort, so I keep repeating “I love you” and just slow my pace down a bit. I feel worse and worse until finally I have to stop running, because I feel like I’m going to vomit. I’m standing there, looking down at a beautiful reservoir, doubled over in pain and I realize that actually there is nothing wrong with my physical body. I am just feeling nausious, not actually physically sick. The light turns on.

Saying this one little phrase to myself over and over dredged up a lot of crud. I walked a lot that day, and did a lot of clearing. Lots of breathing out nastiness and letting go. I didn’t think about the practice much after that until recently when I read the book by Ravikant.

I’ve decide this time to stick with the practice until I have it wired into my brain, until it is the new default thought loop that plays over and over in my head. It is a lot better than all of the other things that are in here!

As I’m getting into it things are changing, of course. Yesterday, I started realizing that I don’t generally know what I want. Like pretty much EVER.

That’s a stunning realization.

No vomiting yet.

 

3 Steps to Empowerment, Step 2: Acceptance

As we become aware of ourselves, our daily thoughts, feelings and actions, then we can start to accept them… most will be easy to accept and some will take a bit of compassion. For some we will want to step out of denial and out of resistance and into compassion, non-judgement and acceptance.
Why might this be useful?
If we want to go from fine to fantastic then we want to accept all of ourselves… step out of denial and resistance of the parts that we feel we don’t like and into acceptance. Then we start to know the truth of how fantastic we already are!
Can you accept all of you?
Some days I’m better than others… I’d love to know what kinds of things you’ve done that helped you to accept parts that were “unacceptable”?
Enjoy,
Elena
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3 Steps to Empowerment, Step 1: Awareness

If we want to go from fine to fantastic, we need to be aware of what we’re doing so that we know what to change… what our thoughts, feelings and actions are on a daily basis.

This can be as simple as noticing our body movements for a few minutes, or really noticing our surroundings several times a day. Cultivating awareness can be simple, easy and fun!

And the results are life changing, life affirming and lovely.

I’d enjoy knowing what you have noticed about your self or your environment through your own awareness?

Enjoy,
Elena
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Stop Taking Spiritual Development So Seriously!

(video) Life is a balance. Not enough focus and our energy is too dilute. Too much focus and we’re constricted and can’t move…

And sometimes it helps to just remember not to take our spiritual development so seriously!
Does it help you to relax in the middle of chaos?
Enjoy,
Elena
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Watching Emotions

(video) Emotions seem to run our lives!

How we feel about something seems to control how we interact with it. For instance: I’m mad at someone, so I’m mean to them.

What if you could develop a place in yourself to watch that emotion and make choices about how to interact?
How do you “step out of” or witness your emotions?
Enjoy,
Elena
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Your Questions: Why Isn't This Meditation Practice Working?!

(video) What happens when you have been diligently doing a meditation practice and you feel like it isn’t helping? If it works for other’s shouldn’t it work for you? Is there something wrong with me, how I’m doing the practice, or is this just the wrong practice for me right now?

How do you know when a practice is working for you?
Enjoy,
Elena
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Broken to Joy: Mind Games

(video) Sometimes we’ve just got to go for it and let our heart speak.
Here is my heart speaking to yours about a topic we all love: how we’re becoming better people through spirituality, through working with our lovely minds… And how that gets in our way sometimes.
This is the second video where I challenged myself to let my heart speak with out mental preparation and to drop back into heart whenever I noticed my mind talking… the mind to heart pauses can be annoying if you want a fast pace!
You are welcome, for your own sanity, to use the pauses to sink deeper into your own heart.
I’d love to know how this experiment goes for you!
Enjoy!,
Elena
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